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Thread started by Tarmonster. at 11.14.08 - 12:11 am
It's really hard. To word this. Even share.
I found out early Thursday afternoon that my mother passed away on Tuesday evening. Words can't express the sadness I feel at the moment. My mother was very ill since last December. She was diagnosed with cervical cancer. And many more things later on with the frequent hospital visits. She suffered a lot in her last days. She left for the Hospital last thursday with extreme pain. And I talked to her an hour before her death. She said she loved me and to take care of the family and that she would come home soon. And she neverdid. And she never will. And I love her and I miss her.
I speant 4 hours with the remainding family members discussing what to do with her body that only made it to 46. And as it is still fresh I have no idea how to handle this. Or even accept this. We don't have much money. And I would like to kindly ask anyone's help. With a donation.
oh, little girl... i am deeply saddened by this. especially since my own mother just had a cervical cancer scare about a month or so back. at least your mother isn't in pain anymore. i am more than willing to help you and your family.
Wow. Tarsis, I would be glad to donate money...but also, are you staying alone? I am free durng some days of the week and would love to spend time with you or your welcome to stay at my apt. I am so sorry for your loss and will keep you and your family in my prayers and thoughts.
Sending my love and condolences.
aw tarrrrmonster! I'm so sorry, but your mother is now in a better place... She lives through you! Stay strong, and i would like to help if there's a way!
Hey Tarsis, I am so sory to hear of your loss, my condolences to you and your family. It will be two years this Thanksgiving that my mom passed away, and I really feel that she lives through our memories. Maximum respect for your courage to share with us such a personal moment. Email me and I can let you know what we did for her and also to let me know how else I can help. ekcinvestments@earthlink.net. Ed.
Is Cremation an option? You will have the ashes forever. You were in great spirits at the Mosey under the circumstances of knowing your mother was ill. You're a strong person. I'm really sorry to hear about your mother.
If it's ok with Tarsis, if anyone wants to donate anything monetarily, you can paypal to barleye@hotmail.com and every dime will go to Tarsis and her family.
Hey everyone, call your loved ones today and watch this video below.
I feel like running to you to give you a long hug but I know from experience it doesn’t help much. My dad died as a result of doctor’s treatment of cancer. It’s a major reason I’m a rawfoodist. I’ll be thinking of you all weekend as I’m away. I hope to see you next week.
xoxo
Your thought mean much to me. Thank you everyone. Words can not express my appreciation. I woke up this morning thinking I was too numb to cry but. No. It's all there and it just hurts. I wouldn't normally go about asking for help in personal situations. But. It's all so overwhemling. This time yesterday I thought I would see my mother that night. And now she's not here. It's just that they only gave us 2 weeks to come up with $6,000 dollars and we're all trying so hard. We don't even have time to try and earn the money ourselves or even mourn properly. I'm on my way to look for a job.
We spoke of cremation but she said that in doing so we would be abandoning her. Her final wish was to be buried in the cemetery of Normandie and Washington.
I would like very much to invite all of you (donations or not) to her wake Friday the 28th. If you can and/or would like.
We always joked that I would get a tandem and I would take her on a ride to experience the bicycle community first hand.
@Julio. Gracias. Del corazon.
@Nicki. Thank you very much for the offer but I do have a place to stay. I feel that I need to take care of the family more than ever. I am looking forward to seeing you.
@Danny. It really is a wonderful community. Your help really touches me. Yeah I'll send you an email.
@Richie. She is in a better place. She suffered so much. She was so strong. I'm asking people for donations. But anyway you would like to contribute is fine.
@Chynna. Honestly. Just love the people around you. I wish I would have bonded more. There was just never enough time. Anything is appreciated.
@Marleydog. Thank you for the support. I'm so sorry to hear about your mother. I'll email in a little bit.
@Brad. My mother always encouraged me to be happy. In any situation. That things happend and some people have it worse. And that you'll get through anything because thats how people grow up.
That's also the reason I didn't go to school or have a job. I would take care of my mother in the daytime and my brother would get nights when I was doing rides. Thank you Brad. Just so much.
@Alec. I'm sorry to hear about your father. Things happen that just shouldn't under the watchful eye of someone else. Thank you for your thoughts.
@La duderina. It really is. I hope to see you soon.
@User1. I appreciate your donations. All I can say is love your mother. Because they have unconditional love.
I just heard about this, and my best wished go out to you and your family.
By all accounts, it seems like you and your brother busted you asses to make sure your mother was comfy and cared for in a trying time she was experiencing.
In the better place she's at now, just remember that her spirit lives on within you, and that she will always be appreciative of what you have done to make her life joyful.
I would like to Thank all of the Ridazz for their support, in this diffucult situation. And not just those who donated. But moral support. It really helped. It was the best kind of form of relief. We are such a wonderful community. I love you all. And I hold my spirits high.
Tarsis, I will either find you tomorrow at the protest or, on the off chance that I sleep in way too late (I'm fuckin' beat right now) and don't make it, I will definitely see you at the Mosey this week if you're there. Either way, I definitely want to help out.
Again, I'm really sorry to hear about this and wish there was something more I could say or do.
And I want to take the time to Thank the Robot Ride. I'm very grateful. At first I was very depressed of the funeral situation and now I am hopeful. It seems like a reachable goal with much work ahead. Thank you so much. I feel I can finaly rest and mourn in peace after I kow I have fullfiled her dying wish.
Tarsis i am sorry for you loss i know how it fells to lose a parent i lost both of mine and my mother was lost to canser as well i fell your pain and i know that she is home at this moment and not in any pain i am sure with all the great ridazz here among us we can all get to gather and my dedicate i ride to help you rise some money well all have some sort of connections and out there and we can make a reach out to others and help out
once again sorry for your loss
and your family will be in my prayers
I'm very sorry Tarsis....
Your a very strong girl honey...and I admire you for the strength you have.
I will try to help you out...you know I'm hear for you anytime:)
Tarsis I'm so sorry to hear about the passing of your mother.I have not known you long and I have never met your mother,but I would find it easy to believe that she was a kind and beautiful woman because I see those qualities in you.I should have some money on thursday so call me before then I will gladly contribute also I might know of some job openings.
As some of you may remember this month last year as the hardest month for me. Tomorrow marks the 1st year anniversary of my mothers passing.
I just want to take the time to thank the MR community. For the love, support and donations that helped my family and I to give her a proper burial last November. I am in debt to you all. And it just really gets to me how much of a community we actually are. And Although I don't have many resources now I would still like to put myself out there the way others did for me. Thank you so so much for your hugs and words and the comfort. For the compassion that made me and makes me feel like even though she is gone I am still cared for. I still have all the cards, envelopes and letters that I read occasionally when I feel sad, that i keep safely under my bed.
I'm riding to the cemetery tomorrow and im sure that the fact that I have so many loving people around me all the time will console me.
Thank you for being alive. Thank you for everything.
I love, love, love you. For whoever it is you are.
i know how this feels... i lost my mother in 03 to a heart attack.Ive never met you before..but i feel your pain trust me.I hope all turns out well....and remember she will always live on in our hearts and you have to enjoy life to the fullest in honor of your moms. much love n respect........R.I.P. TARMONSTER MOMS... what was her name if you dont mind me asking?
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I feel for you Tarsis, and understand you' r pain. Always remember she gave you the most important thing in life. Love.